Many couples seem totally bewildered when it comes to RSVPS. In times gone by wedding invitations would state a date you were required to RSVP by. Then you would go to the local newsagent and pick up one of those dinky little RSVP notelets which stated whether you could attend or not and you would pop it in the post. I remember this as a child when an invitation would come to the house, before smart phones and emails it was a simple case of the old note in the post and it was basic manners that you would send a reply to the kind invitation!

So now we have lots of ways to RSVP. It can be by return post, by text, by phone , by email or wedding website. Heres a few ideas for you to decide what is best for your needs.

  • If you want a physical RSVP card in your invitations then consider ordering Pocketfold invitations. These include and RSVP card and envelope for it as standard . The pocket also allows you to add an extra card of useful information for your guests. The advantage is that the price includes the RSVP in the package so you know your outlay.
  • If you aren’t sold on a pocketfold then you can always order an additional card with whatever style of invitation you decide on. The most economical option is usually a postcard style RSVP as you don’t need envelopes . If you decide to add RSVPS to your invitations remember you don’t need to order one per invite. You can choose how many you need thus controlling your budget. If you know the majority of your guests are on social media or email you can use these methods to manage RSVPS and just provide the physical RSVPS to guests you reckon will prefer the more traditional physical card in the post !
  • For your guests that are on social media you can set up a private event and call it “Wedding RSVP”. You can then invite your guests and they will either accept or decline.
  • For your guests who would use email to reply you can include your wedding email on your invite. EG” RSVP by 10th July 2016 by emailing “.
  • If you set up a wedding website many of these include a feature that allows guests to click on an RSVP option to reply. You can eitehr email them the link to RSVP through the website or print the wedding website web address on the invitation.
  • You can print a telephone number to text RSVP to on your invitation. This is proving to be a popular option as almost everyone has a mobile phone so it can be the easiset option to use.
  • Make sure you leave your RSVP date as a month before your wedding date, this gives you time to chase up any that forget to reply and leaves you ample time to give your final numbers to the hotel/caterer.
  • The extra things you can include on your RSVP is whether your guests have any special dietary requirements (allows people with allergies/intolerance to let you know prior to day so you can make sure a suitable meal is available for them )
  • Some couples are opting to include a ‘Favourite Song” option on the RSVP to allow them to present a song request sheet to their wedding DJ in advance.
  • Make sure you either number the invites or leave a space for the guest to write their names on RSVP as many times this is overlooked and you get RSVPS returned with no names which is a disaster !
  • If you are wanting to include Stamped Adressed Envelopes with your RSVPS, An Post do fab wedding stamps and you can buy a book of them in your local post office or online



Save the Dates are a reletively new addition to the wedding stationery family. They are definitely not a compulsary item of stationery so how do you decide whether you want or indeed need them ?

The idea of Save the Dates is to send word to your guests well in advance of the formal invites to allow them to make travel or accomodation plans if needed. I suppose the need for Save the Dates has increased in our modern lives as people are so busy, many couples are both working and if invited to weddings need ample time to arrange time off work, childcare etc.

So do you need them for your wedding ? If you have a guest list that extends across the ocean then probably yes ! Remember they aren’t like invitations, that is you don’t need to send them to everyone on your guest list . You can choose to send them to family and friends who will need to travel or stay overnight. Giving them plenty of notice allows them to avail of better deals on accommodation and travel .

Here’s the best advice on the Save the Dates ….. be selective who gets them ! You know that youre definitely inviting your Uncle Paddy & Auntie Joan who are living in New York and they will surely appreciate notice to get themselves sorted to attend. Now Susan that works in your office that has a tendency to wind you is on your list as basically you couldn’t not invite her if youre inviting the rest of the office but being realistic with maybe a year to the wedding who knows what might happen , you mightn’t still be working with each other so why secure the invite? Only send Save the Dates to the people you are 110% sure you will want at the wedding. The Save the Dates go out as far as a year in advance so don’t over commit. If you fall out with acquaintences or loose contact you really don’t want to be tied to inviting people you don’t see anymore.

The format you send out is a matter of choice. You can order physical Save the Dates that you can post out, you can set up a Wedding Website and send the link in an email to the guests you want to give notice to, or you can ask your stationery designer to design you a digital Save the Date that matches your invitations that you can email to the relevant guests, while keeping with the theme and style of your stationery. I would recommend this if your budget is limited. It saves on not only the purchase of physical cards but also postage. You might have to pay your stationer a fee for the design but that all you will have to pay as its email based.

There are the couples that love the idea of sending out the Save the Dates, if that’s what you like then go for it ! If you’re mad into all the trims of weddings its like sending out the invitations twice, some couples love the excitement of that .

Theres no right or wrong answer so go with your own thoughts on it !